Guys, Can Pregnancy Effect You?
You & your girlfriend have been sexually involved, whether one time or several times and you’ve discovered that her period is late! It’s possible that you could be faced with an unplanned pregnancy. You may find yourself thinking “Seriously?” “I was careful.” “I never thought this would happen to me!” “Now what?”
First Things First; Confirming Pregnancy
The first plan of action is find out if she is really pregnant and then educate yourself about all your options. The Pregnancy & Resource Centre-Brant will provide a free and confidential on-site self administered NCS pregnancy test that assists with determining pregnancy as well as many other support services. Call to book an appointment at one of our locations with your partner, as coming with her to the pregnancy test appointment will show her that you care and support her.
Feeling Unsure, Overwhelmed or Alone?
You don’t have to be… It’s Your Choice!
Fatherhood under the best of circumstances can be a challenging expedition, so unexpected fatherhood can be very overwhelming!
You may have many thoughts running through your head right now like:
Will she let me be involved?
Do I have any say in the choices being made?
How can I afford to support her and a new baby?
Is there anyone out there that I can talk to about this? I’m not sure I’m cut out to be fatherhood material!
Society says that it’s her choice, but most women don’t want to make that choice alone. She needs your support now more than ever. Support doesn’t mean silence. Share with her. Research the options together. Your voice is important.
FACE YOUR FEAR!
How on earth am I ever going to get though what I’m facing right now? Fear of the unknown can literally shake you to your very core! So who can you trust enough to talk with that could possibly understand what you’re facing?
Facing an unplanned pregnancy and working through all the available options together takes time. We encourage you to take the time, be informed as this is a big decision and one to consider seriously and not take lightly. This is a decision that will impact you for years in one form or another so it’s important to be open and honest with each other. Share what you’re feeling. It’s normal to have feelings of anger, frustration, and fears. Be sure your partner knows that you’re there to support her. Running won’t work. The more you avoid or deny you’re current situation, the harder it becomes to make an informed and healthy decision. Pressure doesn’t help. Pressure will only push your partner away and may even push her to do something that you’ll both regret. Remember that you are not alone. Prepare to talk with your parents and other people you trust that may be close to the situation. It may be awkward, but they might be more helpful than you think.
Both you and your girlfriend need someone to talk to. Right here, right now you need someone to be both honest and straight with you, someone that will give you all the facts. The situation you are now facing has life-long consequences for the both of you. It is very important for the two of you to gather as much accurate information as possible prior to making any final decision. We have the facts you need to know about abortion, adoption or parenting, each option involves different gains and losses. Don’t let anyone pressure you or rush you into a choice you may not ready for. Having accurate information will help you make the best decision possible. It can also help to be made aware of things you might not have considered. Don’t wait for this situation to just go away because it won’t! Take up the challenge, get informed and remember, you do not have to walk this road alone.